Once I watched a video of Mel Robins discussing her Letting Go theory. For a while I was applying it to my life consistently. Then I went back to my old patterns of thinking. Not completely but some ways. Yet, I didn’t realize it until recently. I watched the whole podcast episode by Mel. I understood that I had been applying it for months to my son’s and new daughter’s wedding and reception. It’s only now upon listening to the whole thing that I realize the rewards of this application.
Before any of my children were old enough to marry, my husband and I made a decision. We would gift our children and their new spouse with a lump sum of money. The only caveat was that we both needed an invitation to the wedding. We would only gift this once in their lives for a wedding. After seeing so many skits on Tiktok of overbearing parents I was very aware of how damaging that could be. We did not want to be those kinds of inlaws.
The opportunity to put my money where my mouth is came up, as life usually does. Our son and future daughter-in-law got engaged. We gave them our congrats and a check. They found a venue. They saw an opportunity in the schedule and decided to plan a wedding and reception in around 90 days. As a parent, I instantly had reservations. I thought of all the challenges. I also considered the stress they would face in this time crunch. But it wasn’t my job to say anything. I “let them” plan and continue. This came up many times. And I tried often to keep my mouth shut or offer feedback where they make their own decisions. I’m not sure what grade they would give me. The overall consequences of “letting them” do what they wanted were surprising. They did it in a completely different way than I would have. It was wonderful. The wedding and reception were a work of art made exactly for the bride and groom. And what’s even better, we didn’t fight or bicker. We were never uninvited as so many other parents have been, I saw in my Tiktok fyp.
The Let Them Theory is a book I’m very much eager to read on Christmas Eve when it releases. Which is tomorrow. What books are you looking ahead to reading in the coming year?
Bri Clark 
As I have an interest in promoting women who have achieved in Australia’s past, in the present, and with the propensity to achieve in the future I have several biographies on the TBR List .
Happy Reading!
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